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You were born original; but often it’s safer following the crowd & fitting in than standing out & risk being judged & labelled exhibitionist, weird or attention seeking!! Whether we like it or not there’ll always be someone judging, criticising or condemning us for how we choose to express our true & authentic self, but I’d rather be true to my Soul & be at Peace than trying the impossible of trying to please everyone!!
Sometimes in the busyness of living life, we forget, overlook or just take for granted how blessed we are, for the life we have, the country we live in, the jobs we do, the clothes we wear, the food we get to eat, the people we’re blessed to call family & friends; or even the fact that you’re reading this post because you have a phone, to name just a few reasons! Don’t walk around oblivious to all that you have to be grateful for, there’s ALWAYS time to take a moment & give thanks!
Happiness is always a choice! It’s often mistakenly believed people, places or things are the reason for our being happy; but whilst they may contribute; how we choose to be,see or feel in the experience is the cause for our happiness!
It’s incumbent on us, that we embrace the changes which by necessity will happen to us, in order for us to be, do, or have that which we want! Everything is in a constant state of change only that which resists stagnates & is life less!
When we live & act authentically, it enables us to accept more easily when our actions or words are misinterpreted! There will be times when no matter what we say or do our motives will be misconstrued and we will be seen as the villain of the piece! The quicker we recognise that fact the less energy we’ll waste on wishing things were different!!
It’s the small steps & things we do daily that takes us closer towards our goals! Yes, there are times when we have big splurges of inspiration & action, but it’s the incremental things we do each day, when we feel frazzled or dehydrated of what next that keeps moving us forward & closer to fulfilment!
No one has a special dispensation, that allows them to be exempt from experiencing the trials & traumas of life! The “Why me?” as if someone else should be experiencing it & not them, is not only unhelpful but unproductive in aiding you to get through whatever it is, as it keeps you stuck in victim consciousness, & nothing ever gets healed or solved there!!
Yes, that means the grudge, ill feelings, limiting thoughts & beliefs, low self-worth & any & everything that is neither constructive or helpful in allowing you to move onwards & upwards through life & hinders you from being your most authentic self!!
Whilst there won’t be adverts or posters advertising this simple realisation of what’s needed for a happy, healthy & balanced Life; which doesn’t come with a price tag or can’t be found in a box or bottle! It’s most definitely an ideal that’s worth maximum promotion!
Sometimes it doesn’t take much; it could be as simple as letting someone go in front of you in the supermarket, letting them in traffic or merely giving a genuine smile & asking & listening sincerely to how they are! It’s often the smallest gestures & acts that can be the cause for making someone happy! So go on, be the reason today!
How often people fail to start or begin something because they think it’ll take too long or it’s too big a challenge to achieve their goals or dreams for them to undertake! But the reality is that the time will pass anyway & no matter how overwhelming they think the challenge or their goals are, small incremental steps every day will help them accomplish it & eliminate any future regrets because they failed to do so!
I don’t think many of us would necessarily think of ourselves as courageous. That’s an adjective we use for people like firefighters or Doctors Without Borders! But every time we push ourselves to do something that’s way out of our comfort zone, takes courage; because we’re facing our fear or the little voice of ego saying don’t or we can’t do it, & doing it all the same! So don’t compare or dismiss or discount yourself as not being courageous!
We’re not our history; & even though our past can influence our present, it’s entirely of our choosing; who we are & who we’re becoming; is based on our moment to moment daily choices! Choose wisely...
Too often our past decisions or mistakes hamper us from moving forward in the direction of our dreams and desires for fear of repeating them! But life is meant to be lived, even if that means making the same mistake over & over; each time its repeated you may learn something new about yourself or how not to do it! The point is not to allow your past to hold you stuck in it! For nothing can be created whilst your lingering there!
Whatever it is that is causing the stress, be it personal, professional, social and possibly even emotional will most likely have been forgotten about & not even be a distant memory a year down the line! & yet too often we invest soo much time, focus & energy in imagining worst case scenarios as opposed to focusing our attention on the outcomes we want!
The principal is the same as the mind is the creative medium that doesn’t differentiate between worst case scenario or right outcomes! It only knows focused energy & attention! So next time you begin stressing ask yourself will this matter a year down the line & am I really wanting the outcome I’m focusing & stressing on???
Sometimes we’re too quick to judge something or someone, when we don’t have all the facts or we make assumptions based on past experiences or beliefs! Imagine, how differently our interactions or the outcomes might be if we paused, & try and see things from another perspective????
If you don’t know or have something for yourself, how can you give or share it with another? Self love isn’t selfish or being self absorbed; it allows you to be as kind to yourself as you are to others. It also minimises the need for constant validation & reassurance, allowing for greater peace & happiness within oneself & acceptance of what is!
It doesn’t matter how old we are, or how much work we’ve done on ourselves; we’re still very much impacted by what we heard or were told growing up!!! It shows up in ways that sometimes we’re unconscious of; an insignificant remark can trigger an out of proportion response or retaliation. Or it can make us feel small, useless & inadequate the list is huge! So we need to practice more compassion towards ourselves & those who misguidedly spewed out such hurtful & debilitating words. We can take each painful word & erroneous belief, & work on eradicating it by practising being more loving & understanding to ourselves!!
There will always be people, friends & even family members who are not only no longer on the same page as you they’re not even in the same book! And that’s ok! Our journey’s are just diverging & ultimately we’ll end up at the same destination eventually! So don’t feel bad or waste precious energy trying to tread water hoping they’ll catch up, allow them to be & learn to accept it’s the way it is, no judgment needed!