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There’s no point beating yourself up for past behaviour & the way you were! Because, most likely you didn’t know any better; & that’s not excusing but understanding so that you’re a little more compassionate with yourself! But it starts to become inexcusable when you know what you should do, but then choose not to!
Yes, it’s challenging, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t try! Our egos if we let it, will have us cling to our righteous indignation believing that we’re justified in holding onto those intense feelings which can cause us to build walls, shut down & separate ourselves from others & living! Strive always to be true to who you are at your soul level!
It’s sad but true, for many, their mind controls them & not the other way round! Perhaps from upbringing and or false ideas & beliefs they’ve accepted and which they’ve created into a story they believe & tell themselves and others which often has no basis in reality! Only you can free yourself! firstly recognise what’s the narrative you keep telling yourself ?secondly how would you like it to be different? & finally what steps daily are you prepared to take, to make the change happen & free yourself??
Sometimes we all need reminding as we easily forget, because we’re busy seeing to everyone else’s needs in front of our own! Unless we learn the delicate balance of including & making ourselves a priority from time to time, we’ll continue to be exhausted & disappointed that no one is looking out for us, the way we look out & after them!
The thing about when we’re angry, we loose the ability to rationalise the quality of what we’re saying & the consequences of having said it!Erroneously believing that whatever comes out of our mouth is justified because of how we’re feeling! That’s why counting to 10 is a good idea before retaliating & may help us be less cruel with our words or actions!
Too often, we misguidedly think that it’s people or situations outside of ourselves that need to change in order for us to have the life we want! WRONG!! EVERYTHING starts & ends with you! I know we like to limit our responsibility & project our misfortunes onto others & outer conditions,but the sooner we own & recognise we have to do the inner work, the sooner our outer experiences will reflect the life we want!
We all have the ability & often the occasion to share a few nice words that can help change a persons outlook, perspective or even their day! It doesn’t take anything away from you & can make all the difference in the world! Why not be generously liberal in dispensing a few nice words!
Sometimes our dream or ideal seems too big or will take too long to achieve, that we fail to even begin or attempt it! But the truth is every small step we take towards it, gets us one step closer than if we never bothered! If it’s worth having then it’s worth taking one step at a time towards it!
Too often people keep what they’re really feeling pent up inside unable to share for whatever reason until they loose it! Pay attention, that may not be the time to retaliate or answer; but to take time to evaluate & ponder what was said before responding...
Sometimes all that we can do is take a deep breath when things seem overwhelming! In doing so, we take in more oxygen, which helps calm our fight or flight response and allows us to find possible solutions!
We get so caught up in our daily busyness that we need to be reminded to throughout the day just pause & breathe!
It’s always a matter of perspective as to how we meet life, & in turn how life meets us! A healthy positive perspective will always set in motion the circumstances that will define our experiences!
Growth comes from struggle! Whether it’s a plant pushing through a seed or a butterfly emerging from its cocoon! Pain, effort & struggle are a part of what helps us mature & grow if we let it! If life was one big party, it maybe fun but it would get old & boring pretty quick!
Maintaining the vision & belief about something can be challenging when obstacles keep arising & appearances seems to the contrary! Nevertheless, faith is that invisible something which requires us to look beyond the challenges & the contradictory appearances to trust & believe that what we want is not only possible, but unseen forces are working it out!
Isn’t it interesting how at times, we’re unable to be totally truthful for fear of repercussions and or hurting someone! & yet we want people to be honest & truthful with us! How does or can that work? Rather than manipulating the truth let’s start learning how to honestly & compassionately tell the truth!
Our attitude decides how we meet our encounters & experiences & how we allow them to shape us!
Some might think otherwise; but the truth is your attitude determines more than you give it credit for! A healthy attitude can see & use a setback as something positive & merely an additional stepping stone towards the desired end result! An unhealthy attitude can see itself as the victim yet again & unable to see any other possible outcomes!
Learn to cultivate a healthy attitude & see how your ability to see the positive in all circumstances changes...
Hard as it always is, to go through the pain, hurt & disappointment of any of these experiences, they bring us the lessons we often need the most to grow! Who you are now is shaped by one if not all four of these great teachers! Allow them to open you & not break you!
I don’t know when & where in our culture we decided & developed an attitude that there was a certain age when you were past it! By that I mean we decided our age defined & limited us!& more importantly when & why do we buy into it?
The only time it’s too late is when you’re breathing your last breath! Otherwise up until then, don’t let anything or anyone stop you!
We’re never too old to dream another dream or to risk & take a chance on something or someone! We don’t have all the time in world with which to play safe or keep putting off until tomorrow which never comes, because fear has been whispering in our ear! As Nike says “ just do it!”
Truth be told anything worth having, being or doing is never easy! It comes with (because we love to label things) what we deem a cost! Again, our ego dislikes the unfamiliar & unknown & will try all manner of self sabotaging tactics to stop you! But when you push beyond your self doubts & fears & accomplish or achieve whatever it is, it’s oh so rewarding!
Only if we allow it too! When we don’t look for & embrace the lesson, we become bitter & twisted which eventually corrodes our insides! We should always be seeking to grow & not indulge in the “why me” victim consciousness! The truth is growth never comes with ease & good times but with the pain of lifes challenges!