Embracing Our Light
We all possess these qualities, but often we find it hard to acknowledge or identify ourselves with.
I invite you to look in the mirror and affirm each one; prefacing it with I am . Eg I am satisfied, I am secure I am loved etc.
If you feel a resistance or that it’s not true about you then, allow yourself to feel the pain of having denied it for so long.
Keep repeating whilst looking directly into your eyes in the mirror until you feel shift and it resonates with you!
If you have a close friend you may wish to do it with them where they affirm looking into your eyes You are satisfied” then you repeating it back again until you feel aligned with it. You may feel uncomfortable, but stick with it.
Satisfied, secure, loved, inspiring, sensual, radiant, delicious, passionate, cheerful, joyful, sexy, forgiving, alive, fulfilled, energetic, confident, flexible, accepting, whole, healthy, talented, capable, wise, honoured, holy, empowering, embracing, divine, powerful, free, funny, knowledgeable, affluent, enlightened, realised, balanced, brilliant, successful, worthy, open, compassionate, strong, creative, peaceful, fair, famous, disciplined, responsible, happy, pretty, desirable, blissful, enthusiastic, courageous, precious, fortunate, mature, artistic, vulnerable, radiant, conscious, faithful, magnificent, cosmic, attractive, complete, centred, cherished, romantic, warm-hearted, lucky, assertive, thankful, gentle, quiet, full, soft, wanted, extravagant, decisive, juicy, tender, willing, timely, irresistible, generous, beautiful, calm, carefree, easy going, patient, non-judgmental, cool, thoughtful, spiritual, loyal, connected, articulate, spontaneous, organised, reasonable, humorous, acknowledged, content, adored, playful, clean, fruitful, punctual, fun, understanding, self-assured, dedicated, optimistic, forward, intelligent, credible, active, glamorous, fearless, vivacious, warm, focused, innovative, nurturing, superstar, wonderful, leader, solid, champion, rich, choice-maker, simple, genuine, giving, assertive, adorned, prolific, productive, bold, sensitive
“ “Not all disowned aspects evoke such strong emotions, but when you find one that does, stay with it until you break the hold it has over you. The act of repeating a word over and over to yourself may bring a variety of responses. You might feel anger, resignation, fear, shame, guilt, joy, excitement, or any number of emotions. There is no right way to feel. But the important thing is to stay with it. No matter what you feel, don’t run away, because by committing to the process of taking back the disowned parts of yourself, you’re telling the universe you’re ready to be whole. Owning a positive trait that you’ve previously denied is scary, because it requires you to leave all your stories and excuses behind. You have to let go of all the reasons why you haven’t gotten everything you’ve wanted in life.””
Embracing our Darkness
Everyone has shame. It is part of being human. It is how we hold the shame that’s important. As to whether it’s healthy or toxic for us. Does it stop us from functioning—or give us a pause in action, an opportunity to reassess? Are we ashamed of our shame, or can we hold it as part of the human condition?Healthy shame creates a pause in activity and a temporary retreat from the situation, which allows for reassessment and behaving differently.
Elements of healthy shame are:
self-compassion; realising limitations are human—everyone has them; taking responsibility for your part in what happened—which feels quite different from self-blame; seeing the big picture; and, when the time is right, reengaging.
Unhealthy shame, on the other hand, is when we allow ourselves to be defined by a weakness or something we have no control over.
We are either playing a broken record of victimhood or failure in our own mind or allowing someone else to play it in our presence.
To start reframing them with a compassionate outlook:
Acknowledge the thought. “That’s one way of seeing things.”
Explore where it comes from. “My parents always looked at me like I was a failure when I didn’t meet their expectations.”
Consider evidence for or against it. “What about the things I’ve done right?”
Consider other perspectives. “I made a mistake, but I can fix it — and now I know what not to do next time.”
